As a little girl I always preferred watching A Birth Story on TLC over cartoons on any given Saturday afternoon.
I was entranced by the amazing women I saw facing this intense and somewhat terrifying ‘incident’ called birth. The women always seemed scared but faced the birth of their child with the utmost strength and power. The show usually depicted women screaming and crying through labor, but ended with a happy mom and baby. I always knew I wanted children, even then, but birth seemed so scary. My own birth journey started with an unplanned yet completely welcomed pregnancy for my husband and I. We weren’t married at the time but the conception of our daughter began a string of events we both had wanted for so long, including marriage and family life. We were so thrilled to start this journey together but we had no idea what our options were when it came to birth and pregnancy.
At our first prenatal appointment the midwife told us depending on what doctor or midwife was on call we could potentially be told I was to stay in bed and not move from the room throughout my entire labor. That day I went home and cried. I cried because I felt so confused. I knew something had to change for us and this was not how I wanted to welcome our baby into the world. I wanted an experience to remember, not a day I’d feel miserable thinking about. The choices we made, such as to have a water birth and deliver at a birth center, were probably the best decisions we ever made. Not because there were no doctors or hospital halls; but because we had people around us who cared about what we wanted.
We felt supported and warm and now as a doula I know that comes in many forms other than a midwife and holistic nurses. I found my way to doula work through my birth experience but my doula work has taught me that above all else find a care provider who supports you. Whatever your dreams for birth are, I feel it is important to find and surround yourself with people who want to help you make your dreams a reality.
As a doula my hopes are to provide my clients with support in achieving their birth dreams and goals. I am a very passionate believer that birth can empower you but it can also mold you. The birth of a child is truly a birth of two and sometimes three people. The parents are often born as well. I am so excited for the opportunity to help you experience your dream birth!